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When Phases Drive you To Insanity… 

This week has been a tough parenting week, all thanks to a dreaded ‘phase’ that Baby J has been battling since Monday.

Our usual bedtime routine runs like clockwork (ok not clockwork but as good as your going to get with a teething toddler).  This week however we’ve had tears, I’m talking massive tantrums that have made Baby J breathless and sick.  No amount of comfort, coaxing or toys that sing have helped. Baby J is usually asleep by 8pm but instead we have reached 10pm due to this fucking phase!


Parenting is not always hunky dory we all know that.  I don’t want this post to be a complete moan and whine about how hard a screaming toddler and newborn combination can be, but Holy Mother of God it’s been tough!  Some nights I have felt like I have been on the brink of insanity.  Maybe it’s the sleep deprivation?  Maybe it’s the hormones settling down after giving birth?  Either way I have felt like a complete crazy person 90% of the time!

Tonight though the fog has been lifted.  After a million whiney, moany and generally negative texts to the Mothership (sorry Mum) I managed to get my brain into gear and change a few things in the toddlers routine, and hey presto!  She sleeps!


Considering the glorious weather and the rising temperatures, I have changed her sleeping bag to a lesser tog, and changed her pjs from full length to short sleeves.  She’s also had an extra snack in between her tea and bedtime milk.  Throw in a nice warm bath and we had a sleeper for the first time in a very long week!

So after a much more positive evening and a nice relaxing bath myself here’s what I’ve taken from this #toughparentingweek:

  • Always believe in yourself – even when the chips are down you know you can do it.  You are capable and your baby needs you however stressful this phase may be!
  • Ask for help – if like me it’s not the easiest thing for you to do, ask anyway.  In our house a change is as good as a rest for both me and Baby J.  I return rested and she returns having had loads of fun with Nana in charge.
  • Know that it will pass – everyone says it, but it’s true.  Until the next one comes along granted, but then that one will pass too!


Aside from all of the moaning though we have also had some real highlights to this week.  The summer has finally begun!  We have enjoyed the last week of Hubs’ Paternity leave (thank the Lord!) with days out and family picnics, and tonight I have eaten before 7pm.

There is a god after all!

A Mum Track Mind

Keep Calm and Carry On Linking Sunday

Cuddle Fairy

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38 thoughts on “When Phases Drive you To Insanity… 

  1. This really resonates with me, as we’re going through the same thing. Sleepless nights after getting to a really nice stage where she only woke once a night. To go downhill from there is tough…and heading towards 13 months of sleep deprivation is even tougher. Your little list really comforted me and reminded me that this won’t be forever, thank you 🙂 xxx #fortheloveofBLOG

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    1. Sorry to hear you are going through the same thing, it really can be tough! Things are never easy when you throw a huge dollop of sleep deprivation in the mix. I’m glad my post could help even just a little 🙂 hope your little one soon settles back into their routine.

      #fortheloveofBLOG

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  2. So sorry to hear you’ve had a tough week! It’s been the same here with my 13-month-old. He’s been cutting two teeth over the past 3-4 days, and I’m running on 4 hours sleep in the past 48 hours-which is exhausting! I literally cannot imagine having another little one to take care of right now, especially a newborn. Maybe tonight I’ll see the light at the end of the tunnel! Thanks for sharing x #KCACOLS

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  3. I always wonder what it would be like to have a toddler and a new born and how on earth people manage the practicalities like bedtime – you deserve a medal in my opinion! I’d be having a bad day every day I think, so you are doing amazingly well to put your positive head back on so soon! Thanks for sharing your story, I know it will help other Mum’s feel less alone! #fortheloveofBLOG x

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    1. Bedtime can one of the more difficult times, especially when Hubs is working and both want a bottle at the same time! Thankyou for your lovely comments, I’m trying my best for my girls but sometimes I do have a meltdown! 🙂 X

      #fortheloveofBLOG

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  4. The phase that is getting me at the moment is what ever my sibling has I want it too. Now.

    That’s bad enough but when coupled with the toddler insistence on exactly the right type of cup or the right position it can lead to a very testing time.

    Good luck and I hope your new sleep magic holds for now!

    #KCACOLS
    #fortheloveofblog

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  5. I seem to repeat the ‘it’s only a phase’ to myself on a regular basis! Congratulations on breaking on through and getting some sleep! I’m with you on struggling to ask for help too – I’m terrible at this but I think we all have our limits! #KCACOLS

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    1. I thought I’d won the lottery when she slept! Haha we have to keep reminding ourselves don’t we! I wish asking for help was easier but I always feel so guilty if I leave them with grandparents, but I suppose that is what they are there for and they love to help. Thanks for your comments 🙂

      #KCACOLS

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  6. Well done for finding something to help get some sleep, there is nothing worse than not being able to get them to sleep is there! #kcacols

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  7. Sorry to hear you’ve had a tough week but happy that with a few changes you managed to get the toddler to sleep.

    We all go through these phases so you are not alone.

    Thank you for linking up to #KCACOLS and I hope to se me you back again on Sunday x

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  8. I can completely understand that crazy you felt. My kids are five years apart but one thing I struggled with was the adjustment of having two little ones to spend my time with instead of one and at times, it took its toll on me but after getting over the initial adjustment I realized that I was just struggling to feel like I was spending enough time with my oldest child when I had a baby who needed more. I eventually figured it out but those first months took some getting used to. I love your tips for moms going through this right now! Popping over from #bloggerclubuk

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    1. Thankyou for your lovely comments. It’s tough isn’t it, and a complete learning curve. I’m getting there now but as you say the little one needs more time sometimes so keeping two children happy can be somewhat of a challenge!

      #BloggerClubUK

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  9. Haha yep, this is my life. And the worst part for us is that when one stage ends for one, it just starts for another! We have three years of every single stage, consecutively, and I am well and truly beyond insanity!!! Keep going, one day we will look back and laugh! #BloggerClubUK

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  10. Sleepless nights are the WORST. We have had so many and we never really know what’s causing them. Line you, we just change a few little things and make tweaks here and there. What else can we do when the little people can’t tell us what’s vexing them? I know this sounds terrible, but it’s good to know that it’s not just us! #BloggerClubUK

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    1. They are awful aren’t they! Life would be so my easier if they could tell us and we could fix it 🙂 it’s always nice to know others are in the same boat, it makes me personally feel much less alone! Thankyou for your comment 🙂

      #BloggerClubUK

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    1. It’s awful when they aren’t sleeping isn’t it? I find myself googling ‘circadian rhythm’ at least once a day! Thankyou for your comment, I am replying at midnight during a night feed, haha!

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