This week has been a tough parenting week, all thanks to a dreaded ‘phase’ that Baby J has been battling since Monday.
Our usual bedtime routine runs like clockwork (ok not clockwork but as good as your going to get with a teething toddler). This week however we’ve had tears, I’m talking massive tantrums that have made Baby J breathless and sick. No amount of comfort, coaxing or toys that sing have helped. Baby J is usually asleep by 8pm but instead we have reached 10pm due to this fucking phase!
Parenting is not always hunky dory we all know that. I don’t want this post to be a complete moan and whine about how hard a screaming toddler and newborn combination can be, but Holy Mother of God it’s been tough! Some nights I have felt like I have been on the brink of insanity. Maybe it’s the sleep deprivation? Maybe it’s the hormones settling down after giving birth? Either way I have felt like a complete crazy person 90% of the time!
Tonight though the fog has been lifted. After a million whiney, moany and generally negative texts to the Mothership (sorry Mum) I managed to get my brain into gear and change a few things in the toddlers routine, and hey presto! She sleeps!
Considering the glorious weather and the rising temperatures, I have changed her sleeping bag to a lesser tog, and changed her pjs from full length to short sleeves. She’s also had an extra snack in between her tea and bedtime milk. Throw in a nice warm bath and we had a sleeper for the first time in a very long week!
So after a much more positive evening and a nice relaxing bath myself here’s what I’ve taken from this #toughparentingweek:
- Always believe in yourself – even when the chips are down you know you can do it. You are capable and your baby needs you however stressful this phase may be!
- Ask for help – if like me it’s not the easiest thing for you to do, ask anyway. In our house a change is as good as a rest for both me and Baby J. I return rested and she returns having had loads of fun with Nana in charge.
- Know that it will pass – everyone says it, but it’s true. Until the next one comes along granted, but then that one will pass too!
Aside from all of the moaning though we have also had some real highlights to this week. The summer has finally begun! We have enjoyed the last week of Hubs’ Paternity leave (thank the Lord!) with days out and family picnics, and tonight I have eaten before 7pm.
There is a god after all!