I think that in a lot of situations, whatever it may be, acceptance is usually the key. Accepting things, people, situations even lifestyles can often make our lives feel far less uneasy than if we are constantly trying to change things. Even though the reason we try to change things is often because we think it will be better. Sometimes accepting that actually things are ok just the way they are can have an equally reassuring and humbling effect.
Personally I struggle with the whole acceptance thing, I am always looking too far ahead. I am guilty of saying ‘it will be ok when…’ or ‘if this changes everything will fall into place…’. Sometimes taking stock of where we are now and what we have, can make us realise that actually we aren’t in such a bad place right now. Things could be a hell of a lot worse. I spend time reminding myself of what I have: a loving husband, two happy and healthy children and a stable roof over our heads.
So why do I feel like this isn’t always enough? I wanted to become a stay at home mum and Hubs works long, hard hours so that this is possible. My mind wonders though and I often think about returning to work, would this give me more purpose? I know however that this is irrational, I have purpose and I love that I am able to bring up my children full time. I waver between being so sure that I am on the right track, to thinking that we would all be better off as a family if I went back to work. This is where I need to accept that what I do for my family is enough. I need to accept that just because I don’t work, I still have purpose. I need to accept that my identity as ‘Mum’ is enough and is a vital part of keeping my family happy.
Most of the time I feel extremely lucky to be able to stay at home, I know this is not for everyone, and believe me I can totally understand why. Most of the time I can spend each day appreciating all of the small things. This is because I do believe that if we take note and appreciate the small things, these make up our bigger picture and make it bright and happy.
So my aim of the day is to learn acceptance. Accepting our lives for what they are and appreciating all of the small things. Easy surely?